Men that want to have their cake and eat it too…

Scenario #1: I haven't seen Guy #1 for about 6 months. It was my choice in excluding him out of my life as there was a weird situation that occurred between us prior to this and it was NOT very pleasant.

I've decided that it's time again that based on having common friends; I will invite him to my cocktail / hot tub party that I occasionally hold at my condo.

So, Guy #1 came by with a delicious apple flan cake. Everyone had fun at the party. A girlfriend of mine started passing out coupons for a promotional fruit yogurt at Starbucks. By the end of the night, the flan cake remained untouched. An extra fruit yogurt coupon left lying at my table.

The next day, Guy #1 called me and asked if I still have the flan cake and if it has been eaten. I said "Oh, your right, no one ate the apple flan cake, Why?". Well, he was wondering if he can come by to have the cake. I find it odd, but agreed and asked him when he wants to come by and have cake.

7pm-ish was the answer since he will finish his meeting with a client and head over by then. I said "ok". Now, I am puzzle because I don't know if he wanted to come back to take home the whole cake or come by and have a piece of cake and some tea...with me.

After hanging up the phone, I called a couple of friends and told them about what had transpired. They all laugh and said "There is something wrong with that guy". I know for a fact that Guy #1 is currently under tight financial pressure. However, in the past, he has been very generous. So I assumed that like me, I love cake, he loves cake and we both want a piece of it. (Keke) However, it was a Sunday and I want to relax rather than entertain anyone. My sister Rosalie suggest that I bring the cake down to the concierge desk and leave it there for him to pick it up. I agreed.

But... I want a piece of that cake too, so I decided that half the cake belongs to the house and the other half can return to its owner.

By 5:45pm, Guy #1, called and left a message. "I'm out my meeting early and was wondering if I can come by to have cake." He also text messaged me.

By 6:45pm, I called Guy #1 back and said that I have left the cake with the concierge and he can come by and pick it up. Also, I'm keeping the other half because it looked so good and I want to eat it. haha

Guy #1 says "Ok...but wait, there is a Starbucks coupon that I left at your place can I come by and pick it up?". Amazed...I told him that I was at my boyfriend's place and is not at home, so...No, sorry. I am puzzled once again....

In speaking with a few friends, I have concluded that:

#1 - Something is seriously wrong with this guy ~ does he not know the etiquette of giving?
#2 - He is seriously in financial trouble and wants the cake back to give it to someone else? (haha)
#3 - He wants to speak with me and makes up some silly excuse to come by.
#4 - He saw me in my bikini in the hot tub and he wants to have a piece of me, not the cake. (haha)
#5 - He wants something, but does not have the balls to say it directly to me.
#6 - He just wants cake and his coupon. ~ I think this is the case here...(haha)