Boy Toy vs. Boyfriend

Boy Toys vs. Boyfriends ~ Which one are you looking for?

So, I've been calling my good looking guy friends my "boy toys" and they don't mind it cause they know I'm just joking. They're just friends and it's my way of boosting my ego for having such good-lookin' hard bodied guy friends hehehe Plus, they make great arm candy especially if you put them in a suit.

Most boy toys are players, regardless. A boy toy is short term (eg. 3 months) and should only remain short-term. They are usually very good looking, smooth and social. Women are drawn to the boy toys . Now, a good boy toy will tell the girl that he's not looking for anything serious, so girls, you have to cut it at a certain point before you become "emotionally involve". Three to four months of your time should be enough.

Unless you are the ultimate "player" girl, you cannot play a "boy toy" for long term.

My rules for playing the fields are:

1. Boy Toys are good to look at (that's all) and if you want to have one, you should be ok with them sleeping with other women while they are with you. Now most women with a decent self-esteem would not accept this because if the boy toy decides to be exclusive with a new girlfriend and have never been exclusive with you in the past, then you feel like an idiot, a convenient side dish. Your self-esteem will deteriorate after watching him go through a series of relationships and having you on the side whenever he wants. That can't be good for a girl's confidence!

2. Some girls say that they have "Boy toys" and keep the boy toys for long term just for the physical pleasure because he's a "Stallion", too good to let go. Well, that's great only if you do not get emotionally involved. So how do you do that? Make sure the guy is "pretty" but he must have a flaw that you can't stand and won't settle for (eg. Not good enough for a boyfriend for you, but a good fuck). For instance, he's stupid, but he's good in bed.

Similar to how guys "play" stupid pretty girls. We girls could try the same technique. Note some boys only have booty calls with girls that they would never take out and have a romantic dinner with. Why can't us girls do the same?

I've met professional player girls and they don't even bother with playing the game. It's a waste of time. For instance, let's say you have a real hot guy and the annoyance is that he's kinda stupid and superficial. He's always looking at himself in the mirror. Now, you can play this guy because you know he's never been with an witty and intellectual girl like yourself. However, after a few months, it gets annoying and you end up dumping the guy cause he's a waste of your time.

3. A reason for why a girl would say some guy is her "Boy toy" and actually stays with him for years and years is because she actually likes him (perhaps in love with him?) and is lying to herself and all the people around her. What "Boy Toy" is worth that much time and effort? Unless she's waiting for him to realize that she is "the one" with the patient and heart to stick around. I call it desperation.

Also, I'll make my bet that this same girl would cheat on her "boyfriend" for this "boy toy". I am sure there's more to the physical pleasure that is drawing the girl to her "boy toy" who treats her like a second string, while her boyfriend would treat her like gold.

What a shame, the so call "boy toy" is just a guy that she's in love with and can't have, so she brushes it off so it won't sound like she's been "played" and a loser ...for not being able to let go.

One of my favorite quote:

The average woman is a comformist, accepting miseries and disasters with the stoicism of a cow standing in the rain.